Power of Attorney

As you begin to take responsibility for more areas of an Alzheimer patient's life, you will require the appropriate legal authority.  This is done through a Power of Attorney, and should be arranged early on, while the patient is still capable of assigning the authority to you.  Contact a lawyer or a Notary Public to help you with this.

Home Health (I Need Help!)

Whether you are caring for an Alzheimer patient at home or whether the patient lives independently, there will come a time when you will need help.  Sometimes, this need will manifest itself in your life with the desperate realization that you need a vacation or you are suffering symptoms of burn out.

My advice?  Don't wait that long.

If you contact your local health authority, they can put you in touch with "Home Health"  which will offer some of the following support services:

Personal Care Needs such as bathing and washing, dressing, grooming, taking medication, and meal preparations.  (Note that this list does not include running errands or housecleaning).

Respite, which is a place that the patient can go and stay for awhile while you go on vacation or take a much needed break.

Information about other support services available in your community.  There is a vast network of health authority and not for profit organizations providing services such as:

• Shop by Phone - volunteers will help patients complete a grocery shopping list.   A local grocery store participates in the program and delivers the groceries.
• Meals on Wheels
• Volunteer Visitors and Phone Calls
• Day Programs where your loved one can go for a few hours during the day.
• Various social activities such as lunch and other outings.
• Transportation options such as HandyDART

You can find your local health authority by calling your provincial government, or using the Internet:  http://www.health.gov.bc.ca/socsec/contacts.html.  Make sure that you contact the local health authority where the patient resides.

Your health authority will assign you a Home Health professional (Case Manager).  She/he will visit you or the patient in the home and assess what government services the patient is eligible for and how much they will cost him/her.   Your Case Manager will also provide you with contact information to access the services offered by other organizations.

Keep in touch with your Case Manager as your needs change.  They will make frequent house visits to reassess changing circumstances. 

Don't be shy or try to do it all by yourself - ask for help!  Finding out what services are available before you find yourself in an emergency situation is always less stressful.

A Port in a Storm

A benefit of getting a clear diagnosis for any disease is that you can use the Internet to educate yourself and to reach out to people who are experiencing similar things as you.  You are not alone.

One of the things I hope to do on this blog is to share useful links.  I'll keep adding to the "Useful Links" section, and write a bit about them when I find them.

Here are a few that I have discovered already:

Peace of Mind - Caring for Seniors at Home  I found this during last December's horrific snowstorm when I was trying to find a way to get groceries to my mother, who was living alone. 

Peace of Mind has information about and links to Community Services, Caregiving, Housing, Transportation, and lots more.  Bookmark this site, particularly if you live in the Lower Mainland of BC.

Alzheimer Society of BC  Lots of good information and local links here.

Alzheimer Society of Canada  More great links, information, and links to the other Societies across Canada.  One of the things they sponsor is a very active Message Board, where you can chat and exchange information with other people who are going through the same thing you are.   The personal experience here can be very useful, and as Diane from Peace of Mind (above) says, "It is therapeutic to share information."

When the Doctor says "Dementia"

Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias are not a part of normal aging.  Read more here.

This is the most important thing you should know.  

When I heard the doctor say that my mother had dementia, I thought that she meant normal, aging, memory problems.  I didn't realize that she was pronouncing a medical diagnosis, and I didn't ask for more information, nor did I go home and "Google" dementia.

Five years later,  in July, 2009, when she received a mid-stage Alzheimer diagnosis, I did some research.  What I discovered shocked me.  It also made me very sad.  My mother and I had spent five years on a journey without sign posts or other guidance.  I believe that these years would have been easier for both of us if I knew then what I know now.

If your doctor (or the doctor of a loved one) has said "dementia", here's a place you can start to get more information:Dementia Journey.